It Takes Two to Happen

Of late, I witnessed many relationships taking place, couples breaking up, lovers getting married as well as marriage on the verge of tearing down. Too much to swallow on an empty stomach but these scenarios have been part and parcel of life and occurring every day. Everybody wants to be loved, everybody wants to be in love, everybody couldn’t resist the urge to taste the forbidden fruit, everybody is chasing after love. Love is something we can’t see or touch, but we can feel it because we have feelings. Love brings hope, security, sweetness, strength but love can kill when we misuse it, at the wrong time and place. Love is the intense feeling of deep affection, a great pleasure and interest in something or someone, and deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone. Love is affectionate greetings. It is easy to say, “I love you”, but expressing is another thing. When someone says, “I love you, Candy.” What does he mean? Love for the sake of loving or being lustful? Love her because of her personality, her attitude, her characteristic that you think two of you can be attached well together or just longing for her boobs and making love with her? Think twice before engaging in relationship.

It takes two to happen, it takes two to work. It’s just like any other games, football or basketball to name a few, the kindred spirit and cooperation among the players are ultimately important. Everyone needs to pour in their respective best effort and performance in order to ensure the survivability and existence of the team, same goes to relationship. If a party chooses to sit on the fence then it is just a matter of time that the relationship vanishes into thin air.

It is undeniable that there are too many obstacles that will simply rear their ugly heads which can easily tear down a relationship. Distance, misunderstanding, fear, doubts, insecurity, parents’ disapproval, difference in background, characteristic, personality and goal, existence of third party, being lackadaisical and lacklustre, easily fed up, losing patience, trust and faith, being jealous and many more. All these will make the relationship vulnerable to attacks as the fundamental and the corner stone of a relationship are fading.

Recently I came across a case where the guy is pulling out due to numerous reasons, most probably because of doubts and insecurities. The gal seems to be the black sheep waiting to be slaughtered, though on the surface they remain close friends as before, this guy has hurt her a lot. Making up is a process but breaking up is another process. Both are equally important. Take up the gauntlet to play as a man, anyway relationship is a process of learning, accepting, tolerating, forgiving, admiring, encouraging, building, assisting, holding, intimating, and most importantly, praying. Girl tends to be the weaker sex, deny it or not. Both parties should learn how to bear the onus and responsibility and contribute. It couldn’t be more hopeful that both parties have a common ground.

Distance can be harmful but not in all cases. Keep your mind and heart, be mindful about that. You can broaden your eyesight as the world outside is just too mysterious and exciting. Sexy gals, hot gals and lanky guys are just too tasty. One will come across a myriad of people. The core thing is to learn how to discern and contemplate. Is it a game playing love or a puppy love? Is it because of lust, desire or merely to show off of being the only fish in the sea? Safeguard and protect every relationship and pray earnestly. Listen from God and not one’s heart, one will never get wrong.

If a couple is meant to be together, by God’s will, they will. No worry as God is the Provider and He will prepare the most suitable person or better half for each and every one of us. Treasure what is in front of us and leave the rest to God. He takes care. He leads. We obey. Our God knows what we need, seek for His kingdom and these things will be given to you. Amen.